Getting Unstuck - Question 1 - What Do You Want?

Last week I asked, “How is that was working for you?” and you responded. 

Awesome. Looking in the mirror and being real about your situation isn't easy and you've taken the first step, so good for you 

That’s not saying things are bad. Things may be okay, but I’m guessing that you want more, to do better, have a different outcome or get a different result than what you have in the past. You’re stuck or need direction. 

As promised, I'm going to share with you three additional questions to help you on your way to becoming “unstuck.” 

This email is the first question you need to ask yourself. The others will come over the next couple of days. But first things first. 

What Do You Want? 

I know it sounds simple, but it’s really much more complex and something people often gloss over.

So, what do you want? And I’m not talking about items like a beach house, a billion dollars and a pet monkey. 

I’m talking about specific outcomes, results or destinations.

Usually if something is not working or could be better, it is largely because it is not meeting your expectations. 

What are you expectations? 

I’m sure you have an idea, a vision or goal of what you expect, what success looks like, where you should be in your career, project, etc. But how clear is that? And how realistic is that expectation? 

Don’t make the mistake of being vague saying things like, "I want a better job" or "I want to be happy.” or “I need to be more effective.” 

Be crystal clear and specific.

For example, if you aren’t happy or satisfied in your career, WHAT is that you want in your career? Specifically. Money, challenge, respect, culture, independence, location? And what would that look like to you? 

Don’t underestimate this question. I constantly have candidates and employers tell me, “I don’t know what I want, but I’ll know it when I see it.” Really? They don’t have a clue and end up in circles. I’ve seen it time and time again. Articulate what the outcome and success you want looks like.

If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there. - Lewis Carol, Cheshire Cat, Alice in Wonderland
— Lewis Carol, Cheshire Cat, Alice in Wonderland

Start to take control and pick the road you want to be on. 

I have some homework for you. 

Do some thinking and soul searching and then write out a detailed description of the specific outcome you want. 

Tomorrow I’ll send you the next question that will show you how to identify exactly where the disconnect is so you can get unstuck and making things work in your career, company and life.

Let me know what you think, leave a comment below, and be on the lookout for the next email. 

Bradley